What does your mother's "nitpickiness" or your bosses "narcissism" have to do with your overeating?
Everything. And here's the real kicker. It isn't their fault.
When we judge others we create stress within ourselves and it is that stress that leads us to the refrigerator.
What good do we get out of judging another? "She is so lazy." "He complains too much about his ex." "She is such a kiss-ass with the boss."
I am realizing lately that judging others doesn't do anything but cause ME stress. But when I take that judgment and I apply it to myself, (ie: "I am lazy" and "I complain about my ex a lot," and "I am such a kiss-ass with others") and then find areas of my life where those judgments are true in my own actions (and they always are), I find myself calming down because the judgment is replaced with compassion, empathy and patience.
I am increasingly realizing that my mind does not need to run rampant with its fears and with its judgments. I actually have a say in the matter. That is so cool especially because helps deter me from running to the refrigerator. ~Kim
Well said Kim!
ReplyDelete* Awesome realization. I really appreciate how you apply the judgments to yourself and are able to replace it with compassion, empathy, and patience.
ReplyDelete* Judging, criticizing are very stressful for the person doing it as it generates a lot of negative, toxic energy. What the mind puts attention to, the body responds chemically.
* We are all works in progress. Send some "happy juice" into the cells with praise, appreciation, happy thoughts, a photo trip down memory lane, laughter, being with happy people...
* Reminds me of the saying: the reason a dog is so happy is because it wags its tail, not its tongue. (something like that) :)