REALITY CHECK - NOBODY IS PERFECT

Here's the bottom line, humbling truth, reality check ...

Nobody is freakin' perfect.

If you think that fitness chick, spiritual guru, life coach, weight loss facilitator, or transformational leader is perfect, then you're wrong.

That fitness gal occassionaly smokes a couple cigarettes (or maybe several) when she's out drinking with her friends; that spiritual guru sometimes has serious doubts; that weight loss facilitator sneaks cookies from the snack cabinet and that top-rated marriage therapist sometimes "hits below the belt" when she is arguing with her spouse.

But here is the thing, all those folks are committed to a belief, a mission, a cause. So, yeah, they aren't perfect.

At the same time, when they do digress, they get up the next day and get right back on the road of their commitment, their belief, their mission. It's not about perfection.

It's about balance.

Perfectly imperfect and loving it. xoxo ~Kim

When is it ENOUGH?

I made a commitment at the start of the New Year to truly embrace and live by the words, "I am enough."

Over lunch today with my mentor, I spoke about my past obsession with my weight and wanting to see a particular number on the scale. I recalled that even when I did eventually see that number, how I still felt discontent.

WHEN IS IT EVER ENOUGH? she asks me.

In that moment, I suddenly realized that I was enough when I was 20, 40 and 50 pounds heavier. I WAS ENOUGH. I was not lacking, not deficient, not any less than I am today. I WAS enough. I AM enough. I have ALWAYS been ENOUGH.

This "A-Ha" moment was particularly significant because my mentor was guiding me to realize that, while I may have let go of my obsession over the number on the scale, the number game continues in other areas of my life and though the subject of the number is different (ie: age.. why can't it stop?; business.. will I reach enough women; etc. etc.) the obsession is the same.

Until I realize that whatever number I am obsessing over is ALWAYS enough, I will never find peace. Every day is ENOUGH. Every ounce I gain or lose or maintain is ENOUGH. The number of years I have lived and the number of fine lines around my eyes that comes with those glorious years is ENOUGH. The number of women who enroll in my course -- whether 10 or 100-- is ENOUGH. Everything as it is today, right now, IS ENOUGH because I AM ENOUGH. Wow!

Power to Change

"Never underestimate your power to change yourself. Never overestimate your power to change others." - H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

STOP DIETING (HFL video on YouTube)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JQ4lcd7IQe4

Judging Others Can Lead to Overeating

What does your mother's "nitpickiness" or your bosses "narcissism" have to do with your overeating?

Everything. And here's the real kicker. It isn't their fault.

When we judge others we create stress within ourselves and it is that stress that leads us to the refrigerator.

What good do we get out of judging another?

"She is so lazy." "He complains too much about his ex." "She is such a kiss-ass with the boss."

I am realizing lately that judging others doesn't do anything but cause ME stress. But when I take that judgment and I apply it to myself, (ie: "I am lazy" and "I complain about my ex a lot," and "I am such a kiss-ass with others") and then find areas of my life where those judgments are true in my own actions (and they always are), I find myself calming down because the judgment is replaced with compassion, empathy and patience.

 I am increasingly realizing that my mind does not need to run rampant with its fears and with its judgments. I actually have a say in the matter. That is so cool especially because helps deter me from running to the refrigerator. ~Kim

The Art of Food Sabotage

While cleaning yesterday, I found a small plate of homemade holiday cookies, which were given to me a by my neightbor just before Christmas. I had asked my boyfriend to hide them from me (homemade cookies are near impossible for me to resist!!). Here is what I did with them yesterday when I found them... Note the two bites -- one need not deprive themselves to stick with their commitment to lose or maintain one's weight!!

Making a declaration

Making a declaration that "I am healthy and fit" might seem ABSURD to say when one is still 50 pounds overweight and barely able to walk around the block. But waiting until one is fit and healthy is NOT the point of making a declaration. When our nation wrote the Declaration of Independence were we independent? NOPE! But by declaring it WE MADE IT BE. When JFK declared in 1962 that man would walk on the moon within ten years, everyone (and their mothers) laughed. No matter. By declaring it, WE MADE IT BE. I urge you to declare that you are healthy and fit. I AM HEALTHY AND FIT. Then live with INTEGRITY in living up to your declaration. It's the first step toward living your new lifestyle. I love you guys!! Really, I do.